Watching Porn With Your Man

Are you comfortable watching porn with your boyfriend?

This can be difficult to answer. When I first started dating The Player, who was (you guessed it) a perpetual cheater, I was really insecure about him looking at other women. Mainly because I always suspected him of cheating on me, and mainly because he probably was. 

I was really young at the time, about 20, so even the concept of sex was fairly new to me. When he suggested we watch porn together, I was taken aback. I didn’t want him to watch porn behind my back, much less watch it with him.

How was I supposed to focus on having sex with him when I knew he would be focused on the big breasted porn star on the TV?

I never did watch porn with him. I had too many insecurities about it. 

However, for the first time, I watched porn with my current boyfriend, Mr. Charming. And truthfully, it was my idea to begin with. He’d suggested it a few weeks back, but I just couldn’t do it. For the same reason as before, I didn’t want to feel like I was competing with a porn star. But for some reason, on that night, I decided to take him up on the offer, and he was definitely surprised.

It was one of the best sexual experiences I’d ever had, and he loved every minute of it. 

First of all, I had two (or three) glasses of wine, so I was relaxed for the most part. Secondly, we didn’t watch porn while we were having sex. We waited until about fifteen minutes into it until Mr. Charming was hard as a rock. And lastly, it wasn’t a nasty porn with filthy sex—it was subtle, natural (even though the man was unnaturally well endowed), and normal

Even though I’m still as insecure a woman as I was with The Player, I enjoyed myself so much that I wouldn’t mind doing it again. 

Maybe it’s because I’m older and realize that men will always be looking at other women and will most certainly always watch porn. Or maybe it’s because I am dating a really great guy whom I feel comfortable enough with to watch another couple have sex. 

The porn was almost like a guide for us. We watched the porn, and when we had sex, we did the exact same sex routine they did, only modified for our own pleasure. 

I used to think that watching porn with your boyfriend was an outrageous concept, but now I think of it more as sex training. You can always learn something new from watching porn.

Porn is more thorough of a guide than flipping the pages of a Cosmo. You get to see an actual demonstration. 

Now there are some certain precautions you should be aware of. Your man may have some awkward fetishes that you aren’t comfortable with. Be prepared that you may find out something about him that should only be kept behind closed doors.

You also don’t want to watch porn while you’re having sex if your man becomes too focused on the TV and not you.

If his focus is on the porn and not you, then casually say with a playful smile, “Let’s turn the TV off.”

Then start going down on him or grinding on him so that he can forget all about the porn. 

And by all means, if you are uncomfortable with it, don’t do it!

It’s as simple as that. Don’t let him pressure you into it either. No matter what kind of decision you are making in a relationship, don’t ever let him pressure you. 

If you decide to watch porn with your man then relax and enjoy yourself.

Don’t be jealous of the other girl on TV—Hello! There’s a sexy man on the TV you can look at too! Just have fun!

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